If you’re like me, you’re used to helping others, not being the one who needs the help. And if you’re also like me, it’s almost impossible to admit, let alone ask for help on this rollercoaster cancer ride. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who not only cheer you on but actively want to help you.
I’m so blessed to be surrounded by an amazing support system of family, friends, and my work friends. I had no idea just how much support I had until my friends decided to throw a benefit for me.
I never would have asked anyone to do this for me, and it was so hard to say yes, but just say yes! When I walked into the benefit, I was overwhelmed by all the raffle baskets and people wearing the benefit t-shirts. The number of donors was overwhelming; this was one of the few times I actually cried. I had no idea so many people cared about me; it was an amazing feeling. I’ve also had friends take me to my chemo appointments; that way, my husband didn’t have to take a day off every week. So when people offer to sit with you give them a choice of dates. There will come a time when you will be able to pay back all the wonderful people in your life, or maybe you already did.
I also recommend joining a Facebook group for your specific cancer. I belong to two Triple Negative Breast Cancer groups, and they are full of helpful information specific to my diagnosis. And trust me, there is always someone on these sites who has gone through similar situations or has had the same questions that you have. You can get information with absolutely no judgment.
I couldn’t have gotten through this diagnosis without my Strong Mom community. I joined this community in January of 2024. I found the group through Facebook and boy, am I glad that I took the leap of faith to join. I needed something just for me to help with getting myself back on track both physically and mentally, I had no idea just how important that was to me. This is such a positive group of moms, and we’re all working towards the same goals and cheering each other on. We each have a personal coach who is our biggest cheerleader and helps us stay on track on our journey. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, the first thing my coach said was, “How can Strong Mom support you?”. This meant the world to me. They have been cheering me on throughout this journey, and they have helped me keep a strong mindset that is getting me through the tough days.
So wherever or whoever your community of support is, lean into them, and remember, just say yes!